How are the compliments going this week for you? Have you noticed a difference between offering compliments to an individual who is a stranger as contrasted to an individual who is an intimate friend or family member? Oftentimes there is a marked difference.
Persons that we know well often do not receive compliments from us. Why? The are many reasons we withhold complements to the people we love dearly. We say to ourselves,
“I’ve told them that a thousand times.”
Or, we do not notice the positive attributes of the person. Rather, we prefer to notice more the negative aspects of that person that tend to drive us up the wall of frustration The compliments slowly fizzle off. It will however shift a relationship when the practice is embodied to say what is positive about any loved one that comes from your heart.
There is a second dimension to this challenge. Some compliments that we offer to others are based on a temporary characteristic of the person. By that I mean, we compliment their hair today which is a beautiful red color but in just a few years their hair may become gray. Or, the face may be quite gorgeous today but a few wrinkles may sneak in over a few months time because of dehydration. Some of the characteristics that we admire in others today are temporary and will no longer be present in a month, or year or decade. We are all in bodies that age over time.
Another form of compliment is deep and has a profound impact. This particular compliment takes the following form:
“Because of what you just did (or said) I feel absolutely magnificent.”
When you say how you feel in response to something a person has just done in the moment, you have just offered a compliment that the person cannot cast aside, ignore or dismiss.
In the compliments that you continue to offer throughout the rest of the week and your life, before you speak, you might want to preface the compliment with simply saying,
“I feel…”
Then fill in the blank.
“I feel exhilarated when I am with you right now.”
“I feel so happy hearing you say that.”
“I feel…”
However you feel, simply state it and tell the person why you feel that way.
Remember – each time you vocalize a compliment to another; you are shifting your energy to the place of health and wellness. You are increasing the ability of your body to heal. Positive thoughts yield positive outcomes. Kind words are indeed a profound gift. They create wealth in your own heart which is the source of all healing. And, at the same time you have offer an unsolicited healing to another
Robert
© Parkinsons Recovery