Deeper Meaning Behind Touch

What is the deeper meaning behind becoming aware and sensitive to touch?  When we make physical contact with another person who is disconnected and detached, when there is touching but no consciousness associated with the touch – what comes back to us from that other living being is the same:  detachment, disconnection and distance.

When we touch another living being with compassion, when the touch is “mindful” – what returns to us is the same: love, compassion and a deep connection.  When I say “living being” I’m not just talking about persons.

Many of you are well aware of what it means to touch an animal; a dog, a cat or a horse.  Horses, cats and dogs are no different humans; when we touch tenderly and lovingly what returns back to us is the very same delicious energy.

Let’s step down one level, for there is a deeper meaning to this particular challenge.  To what extent are you mindfully connected in a loving way to your own body moment to moment?

  • Are you disconnected?
  • Are you disassociated?
  • Do you refuse to send loving energy to every cell of your body? 
  • Are you angry at your body?
  • Are you furious at what your body is doing to you?

Each time you have those thoughts, they convey an energy to every cell of your body that is not in your best and highest good.

What happens when you touch yourself, when you hold own hands?  Is that done tenderly or is it done out of fear and anxiety?

What happens when you touch your knee?  Is that done with disconnection without any knowledge of the fact that you are touching your knee, or as you touch your knee with your hand do you do so with intention, love and compassion as loving energy is sent to each and every cell in your knee?

How we treat objects and how we treat other people, and quite frankly how they treat us is a mirror image of our relationship with our own body.  When we can become tender and loving and mindful of the messages that our body sends to us as we are touched moment by moment, by the sensations we receive and feel,

  • We will be in communion with our body.
  • We will be listening to the messages our body sends to us.
  • We will know what is required for us to move into a place of full recovery; a place where symptoms cannot rear their ugly head.

Once we are mindful and loving and attentive and appreciative of all the messages our body touches us with, we are solidly on the road to recovery.  When we remain detached, distant and uncommunicative with the messages that our body sends to us, we are out of touch. We are disconnected. In this  place of disconnection there is little opportunity for true healing to unfold. We become detached from the signals our body so desperately wants us to receive and acknowledge.

Get in touch with your body. Be receptive to its messages. Welcome them. They are giving you the information you need to take the steps that are needed for you to come into your full power and manifest your destiny.  The world is patiently waiting for you to show your full power.

Make it happen now. Be sensitive to touch. Be aware of the signals.  Become intimately compassionate with the moment to moment messages your body sends to you, for you are continuously in touch with your body whether you acknowledge it or not.

Robert

© Parkinsons Recovery

Touch

My invitation for you this week is to become aware and sensitive of touch.

  • What does it feel like to touch objects?
  • What does it feel like to touch people?
  • What does it really feel like when you are “touched” by another person? 

Each time you are touched, whether it is simply because somebody brushed you by accident or somebody intentionally placed their hand on your shoulder,  become aware and sensitive to how it feels inside your body.  Does it feel:

  • Soft
  • Warm
  • Cozy
  • Loving
  • Tender

Or does the touch feel:

  • Abrasive
  • Aggressive
  • Sharp
  • Edgy
  • Unpleasant 

Each time you are touched, step back and pause for just five or ten seconds. Ask yourself,

“How did it feel when I was just touched by someone else?” 

Turn that assignment around and each time you touch either a person or an object, do the very same thing.

“How did it feel when I just touched someone else?” 

Do the same quick assessment when you touch objects:

  1. If you pick up a fork, how does the fork feel to you? 
  2. If you are washing a glass in the sink, how does it feel to touch that glass? 
  3. If you’re holding a book to read, how does the book feel to the touch of your hands? 
  4. If you are placing your hand inside the hand of another that you love, how does that feel at the moment when touch and contact is made?

For each and every physical contact that you make, pause ever so effortlessly and briefly. Acknowledge when you pause how it feels when either you are touched or you touch another object or another person.

Become mindful. Become aware each and every moment of each and every experience.

  • Is it tender?
  • Is it sweet?
  • Is it loving?

Or, is it so quick and abrasive that it is not even noticed?

Enjoy becoming aware of touch this week.

Robert

© Parkinsons Recovery

Deeper Meaning Behind Your Relationship to Time

While I focused the three challenges of this week about time – on intentionally being early, on intentionally being exactly on time and intentionally being late – the three challenges actually have little to do with time itself.  They have everything to do with our mind states, our habits and our thought patterns.  Our relationship to time is wrapped up in the state of our ego which does not always have our best interest at heart.

Time is actually irrelevant when we are living in the present, when we are mindful.  Time has no meaning whatsoever other than the meaning we ourselves attribute to it.  For example, if we habitually find that we want to always be late, we may be carrying certain thought forms like,

  • “I’m a very busy person and I don’t have time to wait around for other people to arrive to the meeting.” 
  • “I’m a very important person so in order to be able to assert my importance I will arrive late to every meeting that I actually attend.  I want everyone to see that I am important and I can not attend any meeting that happens to arbitrarily start at a very specific time.”

Perhaps you are a person who is routinely and habitually always exactly on time.  What are the feelings and thought processes driving that habit?  Is it perhaps because you like to be seen as:

  • A person who is a perfectionist?
  • A person who is reliable?
  • A person who is trustworthy? 
  • A person who cares about others so you do not want them to be waiting around just for you? 
  • A person that wants to be precisely on time because you cannot tolerate the anxiety that is associated with being early?

Or, perhaps you are person who is routinely and habitually early to all appointments. Is it perhaps because you:

  • Do not want to be seen if you come late?
  • Do not want to be judged as unreliable?
  • Do not want to waste other people’s time because they are more important than you? 

Of course I could go on and on with many different types of rationales that might float through our minds whether we are early, on time or late, but they are all connected to thought forms that certainly do not serve our best and highest good.

Although there are no doubt thought forms connected with the habit of always being early to appointments, the ideal strategy to reduce stress is to give yourself plenty of opportunity to get wherever it is that you need to get; to plan ahead of time so that you may be a bit early to all of the appointments. This way there is no stress involved in worrying about whether or not you might be late – if in fact being late is a worry you find that you oftentimes have.

The challenge this week is to evaluate and to assess your relationship with what it means to be “on time,” and to consider the possibility of loosening the link between when you arrive and when you are planning on arriving to your appointments. This will enable you to be more in the moment, more mindful of each and every experience that you are having now.

When we are focused on time we are always thinking about the future.  In other words, we are always focused on being at a place at some future point in time.  That, as it turns out, is not being mindful.

Set a new habit so that you give yourself plenty of time.

  • Start preparing to leave early.
  • Slow everything down.
  • Relish the pleasure of dressing to get ready.
  • Hear the sound of your footsteps.
  • Enjoy the journey as you enter into your car or bus or train or plane.

Moreover, take in the full experience of the taking each step of the journey to wherever it is that you are going without worrying about being early, about being on time or about being late.

Continue if you will your own self-examination.  See if you might be able to cast aside some of the habits that you might have adopted over time about time so that you can be more fully and completely focused on the moment. This is the place you will derive limitless pleasure. This is the place where stress has no opportunity to enter into your body. This is the place that requires no travel. You are always there.

How much time did you allocate today to read this follow-up to your mindfulness challenge of the week? Are you behind time now? Will you now be unable to accomplish everything on your daily plan of activities? Did it take you longer than you had planned to read this email? Or, was there no anticipation or plan for the day? You see, time is simply whatever we make it out to be.

Robert

© Parkinsons Recovery

Relationship With Time

What is your relationship with time?  Is it a good one, is it positive or is your relationship with time stressed?  Does it create trauma for you each time you have an appointment that you need to meet?  Are you a person who is habitually early by a number of minutes?  Are you a person who is always right on time or are you a person who is consistently and habitually late to appointments and to meetings?  What is your orientation and perception of time?  It is that orientation and perception that can create significant and profound stress each and every day.

The invitation and the challenge I have for you this week is to be mindful about your own thoughts and reactions to being on time.  I have three challenges, three invitations for you.  The first invitation is to set your intention to be particularly early to an appointment that you have this week.  This might be your regular routine, but simply do it anyway and access how you feel about being early to an appointment.

  1. Does it feel good?
  2. Does it feel bad?
  3. What are your thoughts?

The second invitation is to – as best as possible – plan it out so that you are precisely on time to an appointment.  Then check in to see how you feel about being precisely on time.

  1. Does it feel good?
  2. Does it feel bad?
  3. What are your thoughts?

And finally, the third invitation (you probably see this one coming) is to be intentionally late by 10 or 15 minutes to an appointment that you have. Access for yourself your own feelings and reactions to what that experience means for you.

  1. Does it feel good?
  2. Does it feel bad?
  3. What are your thoughts?

The challenge of the week is to more systematically and mindfully assess your own personal reactions to what it means to be on time. I’m fully aware that some of you are habitually early, some of you are habitually right on time and some of you are habitually late.  It’s very possible that any one of the three routines of habit (being either early, on time or late) may create significant stress for you.  If you are unable to accept any one of these three challenges, ask yourself:

How does it feel to refuse the challenge?

If you are up to it this week accept all three challenges. Assess your personal reactions and feelings in the moment which is what becoming mindful is all about. .

Be sure to have fun with this one. You’ll find it will be an interesting experience that may reveal to you ways that you are being stressed that you never were aware of.  Have a marvelous week as you enjoy implementing the three mindfulness challenges.

Robert

© Parkinsons Recovery